Some people think I am crazy because I believe that everyone should have alone time. I’m the type of person who loves alone time. I am a big believer that strong deep relationships are healthy to be in but some alone time everyday is paramount to making those relationships successful. However, I love and need alone time to function properly. Marriage, kids, work, and daily life can use up vast amounts of energy and during alone time I can think, breathe and be just me.
It is surprising to me to see so many people that refuse to give themselves alone time because they just don’t know how to be alone with their own thoughts. These same people are emotionally and physically exhausted but continue to try and do more and more without achieving a great amount. Spending alone time to recover from life is not a part of life that you need to feel guilty about.
As it turns out alone time is recognized by almost all medical professionals as a necessary ingredient to staying healthy. If you have been super busy taking care of others or putting in a huge amount of hours at the office you need to realize that your personal or alone time should be put at the very top of your list. Achieving your goals, making space for all kinds of good stuff to come in and refilling your personal reservoir to help deal with the everyday trial and tribulations of life. All you require is space and time where you can be alone, undisturbed and in a comfortable place to focus on yourself.
Not everyone needs a lot of time alone, but everyone needs to find their balance between the busyness of life and time to breathe. Below are five reasons to consider building some alone time into your life.
1. Time to Rediscover Self and Reevaluate Priorities
Everyone has big important things in their personal lives that they want to achieve…like a fit and healthy body, overcoming an addiction, living a mentally fit life, starting a new career or business. But one of the biggest reasons that slows them down or keeps them from achieving their goals is an inability to build some personal time into their life. Finding a small amount of time everyday for yourself is a priority to achieving your personal goals.
2. Bring Back Your Lust for Life
Today everyone is busy in life, but are you taking action or steps on your most important goals? It’s easy to push your personal goals to the back burner and think you’ll get to them tomorrow, next week, or next year. Unfortunately when it comes to your dreams tomorrow never gets here. Each day becomes a repeat of the previous day.
To bring back your hunger for life, spend some time alone each day focusing on new experiences that would allow you to grow and branch out beyond the ho-hum of everyday living. To bring your dreams or personal goals back to the front burner, take a few minutes of alone time each morning and ask yourself these questions:
- What is really important in my life today?
- What can I do to support the relationships in my life today?
- What is one action I can do right now to bring my goals closer than they were yesterday?
3. Time to Breathe and Release Stress Levels
Stress happens all the time and bad stress occurs when we believe that we do not have the time, experiences, or resources to deal with a challenge or situation. Feeling anxiety and pressure does not help control your eating habits or keep your mind on an even keel. It encourages bad habits and helps put you in a terrible mental place which makes you perceive your goals as impossible. Taking a few minutes of alone time to breathe and calm down helps bring new perspective that while the situation at hand may suck, it is not a life or death situation and will not hurt your life. Releasing your stress will give you more control and more mental clarity.
4. Be With Your Own Feelings
Taking time alone creates space to relax, clear out the world, and be with no one else’s feelings but your own. By stepping away from all the outside noise and busyness, you are able to focus on your own emotions and feelings. Once our head is clear, you can take the time to explore what you currently want at this time in your life.
5. Be Independent
A person who leads a self-reliant life is able to think for him or herself rather than slouching down and following the lives or direction of others. When you’re relaxing by yourself it’s much easier to enjoy some self-reflection, where you can analyze mentally where you are, physically where you are and make the proper choices to get you or help you continue along the right path.
Michel Montaigne, French Renaissance writer and scholar is quoted as saying, “A man should keep for himself a little back shop, all his own, quite unadultered, in which he establishes his true freedom and chief place for seclusion and solitude.” Indeed, for all men and women, creating solitude can refresh and lead us into acting genuinely.
Today, if you do nothing else, carve out some time for yourself. This will give you the opportunity to relax and enjoy your own personal space.