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Family and friends may always intend to have your best interests at heart, but they can do some of the most damage with the “loving” comments they make.  Here is some of the love our readers have heard over the years:

There were two scales in the spare bathroom in the home, one relative comes out and asks have you gotten so big you need to use two scales.

A relative tells you that since you have gotten fat you aren’t the person they remember anymore

A family member exclaims – That outfit looks great on you, just imagine how much better it would look if you lost twenty pounds.

After writing a professional licensing test a loved tells you – Don’t be surprised if you don’t pass, smarter people than you have failed the exam.

You’re fat because you don’t like yourself, so why should others like you?

You are not depressed, you are just lazy.

Why don’t you get your head out of you’re a$$ and do something.

Just stop eating and start exercising, it’s that easy!

If there is anything I could ask of family, friends and acquaintances’, it is that you support obese and depressed individuals.  Unless you have been in the same position or situation in life that they are you will never understand what is going on inside them.  Encourage them to get professional help and encourage whatever small steps they make.

Nobody is born with the ultimate goal to be depressed or to be obese.  They don’t wake up one day and decide that they are going to make a significant change today that will make their lives more difficult to live because they had nothing better to do.

At the end of the day please encourage, support and stop the love that really hurts.